From “I am sorry for your loss” and “may he rest in peace” to “we’re deeply saddened” and beyond: sincere condolences are among the most difficult things to write. What should you say? Or not say? How do you strike the right tone?
This page will help get you started. It lists more than 100 condolences that you can use in various settings. Feel free to modify them as you see fit; think of the below messages as starting points, to get you thinking.
- General condolence messages
- Condolence messages for loss of mother
- Condolences for loss of father
- Religious condolence messages: “May he rest in peace” and beyond
- Bible condolence messages
- Short condolence messages: “Sorry to hear that …”
- Best sympathy quotes
- How to write sympathy card messages: sincere condolences
- The best condolences for a cat or dog (or other pet)
- Beyond “May he rest in peace”: some tips on writing condolences
- Grief quotes and death quotes
- Helpful links and resources
General condolence messages
The below examples of condolences are appropriate for almost all situations.
- May peace be with you.
- As a testament to your strength and courage, you are in our prayers.
- We hope you find peace and comfort in your time of grief.
- Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers, and that we are sharing in your sorrow.
- Let the memories provide comfort in your journey through this loss.
- I send my prayers and support to you and your family during this difficult time.
- Please accept my deepest sympathies to you and your family.
- Rest In Peace, dear friend. Wishing you comfort and peace.
- My heart is saddened by your loss.
- My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
- My heart aches for you and your family.
- It is never easy to find the words to express our feelings when there are no words that can fully capture the depth of what we’re feeling.
- We hope you can find comfort in the memories and celebration of their life.
- Please know how much they will always be loved, deeply and sincerely.
- We are so sorry for your loss, and send a prayer your way.
- You have our deepest condolences as you grieve this passing. Please take care
Condolence messages for loss of mother
Condolences for loss of father
Religious condolence messages: “May he rest in peace” and beyond
- May God be with you and your family in this very sad time.
- I will pray for you all, and keep you in my thoughts.
- May God grant you and your family the strength to bear this loss.
- God bless you and keep you in his care.
- May the Lord bless you in this time of need.
- May God comfort you during this time of grief.
- I hope God gives strength to your family during this painful time.
- May God take care of you and watch over you.
- We wish that God will grant you the power to overcome this difficult moment.
- May God’s mercy and blessing be upon your family at this difficult time.
- God bless the departed soul. We will pray for you.
Bible condolence messages
What does the Bible say about loss? Or about memories? What does God say about difficult times? The scriptures below will shed some light on those questions.
Short condolence messages: “Sorry to hear that …”
Short and sincere condolences are sometimes necessary in situations where space is limited, for example on a note attached to a floral bouquet. In such cases, every word counts, and finding just the right word or words matters deeply. In any case, your words of sorrow will be comforting, regardless of what words you use. Below are some examples.
- Condolences to you and your family.
- Deepest sympathies to you and your family.
- We send our heartfelt condolences.
- We want you to know how sorry we are.
- Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
- Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this painful time.
- I pray for your comfort and strength during this difficult time.
- I wish peace and mercy upon your family.
- We are so saddened to hear of your loss.
- May the soul of the departed rest in peace.
- My deepest condolences for your family’s loss.
- We can hardy describe how sorry we were to hear of your loss.
- Heartfelt condolences to the departed soul.
- My prayers and heartfelt sympathies to the bereaved family.
- My thoughts and prayers are with you during this trying time.
- Our heartfelt condolences to the family. We wish you peace.
- May the departed soul rest in peace.
- Our deepest thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of grief.
Best sympathy quotes
Sympathy quotes by famous people will help you to craft the perfect condolences. for a friend or family member. The below examples will help you to embrace the memories of a loved one, the moments of sadness, and the moments of joy in grief and life.
Become the reason that your grief-stricken loved one, colleague, or friends and family smile, even if they are still hurting because they lost a loved on. You can offer them that smile right now by using the below condolence quotes for inspiration, to let them know that loved on will never be forgotten:
How to write sympathy card messages: sincere condolences
If you have recently lost someone close to you, or know someone that has, it is important to show them that they are not alone. One way of doing this is by writing a sincere sympathy card or message for them, for the loved one, or for their family and friends. There are three main parts in the process:
1. Sympathy message writing tips: beyond “thoughts and prayers”
- The first part of writing a sympathy card is to make sure the words are heartfelt. This means that you are not just saying “I’m sorry for your loss” or something like this, rather you should take some time and really express how much they meant to your life, and what the memories mean to you.
- In addition, it’s important to write in a tone that conveys the right emotion. If someone has recently passed, you may want to use words and phrases like “passing,” “loss,” “comfort and peace,” “peaceful passage,” “support,” and “safely.”
- Your choice of words does indeed matter! Express empathy for their pain, letting them know that you share their pain deeply, and are aware that they are grieving now.
- Writing a sympathy message can be difficult because there are so many feelings that come with it – sadness, anger, regret. If this is the case for you then I recommend taking some time to talk out these emotions, and settling on what it is that you want to express.
- Keep in mind that while we can’t always know exactly how the person reading feels about your message, they will be grateful for any effort put into writing one. So don’t worry too much!
2. How to sign a sympathy card
- Use a pen with an ink color that contrasts with the envelope. This will make it easier to find in sorting piles later on.
- Write your name, followed by “sincerely” or “yours sincerely.” You can also write something like “[Your Name] from [Organization]” if you’re sending a group sympathy card for work.
- Sign at the bottom right of the front side of the card, and then fold up towards yourself as though addressing an envelope (this way when people sign they’ll be able to see how much room is left).
- Address your letter below where you signed, but don’t put any stamp or postmark information until after everyone has finished signing; sometimes cards can be changed at the very last minute.
- Write the date of when you’re sending it below your name, and then put a line where people can sign their names
- Wait about two minutes for everyone to finish signing before you seal up the card with an adhesive strip or glue. It’s best if only one person seals so they don’t need to worry about sealing over other peoples’ signatures.
- If there are any blank lines left on the back, write “thank you” in large letters; this way anyone who signs after will know how much room is available.
3. Sympathy card etiquette
- The third part is all about etiquette – it will give you a better idea of what to include in your card and how to send it most appropriately.
- -Include something that expresses sympathy, such as “I’m sorry for your loss” or “My thoughts are with you.”
- -If you know them well enough, talk more personally by mentioning specific memories from when you knew them: this could be through an anecdote shared between friends, funny moments at school, etc.
- -Don’t forget to sign and date the card! And don’t add anything else besides an address if sending via mail because additional information on the envelope can be read by anyone.
The best condolences for a cat or dog (or other pet)
Beyond “May he rest in peace”: some tips on writing condolences
Writing a sympathy message when someone dies is never easy. Here are some tips to keep in mind for writing sincere condolences:
Grief quotes and death quotes
We all experience loss at some point in our lives. Whether it’s the death of a family member, friend, or pet; breaking up with a significant other; or moving out of state to pursue your dreams – life is full of change and we must learn how to cope. This grief guide was created for those who are experiencing grief right now and need hope, encouragement, and support during this difficult time.
The quotes below offer an idea of the thoughts and feelings that are shared from those who have experienced grief before you. They provide insight into what someone might be feeling if they’re going through a similar experience, or they can help to put your own situation in perspective during this difficult time.
- “I grew old, I grew young again as the day turned along” – W.H Auden
- “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory that no one can steal.” – From an Irish blessing
- “Death, the last enemy that shall be destroyed.” – From a Bible verse in Corinthians 15:26.
- “To grieve is to take a break from the minutiae of life and to allow life’s weight, its gravity, to bear down on you. It is not an indulgence but rather a necessary act.” – Dr. Sharon Jayson
- “There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.” – Geoffrey Chaucer
- “Grief takes time; there are no shortcuts. You can only hope for understanding friends who listen without judging or offering solutions.” – Robert Farrar Capon
- “Death is not extinguishing the light; only putting out the candle because the dawn has come” – Rabindranath Tagore
- “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” – Tao Te Ching
- “The days are long but the years are short.” – author unknown
- “I am resolved that someday when I’m ready to die from old age it will not be of fright or sadness.” author unknown
Helpful links and resources
Grief can be hard to navigate, but it’s not something anyone should face alone. There is comfort in knowing that people care. The grief quotes and comforting words shared here are only some of what’s out there. Please share these quotes, tips, and links with someone who might need them.
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